Of Future’s Past

Ciara, Russell Wilson, Future

For a dude that calls himself ‘Future’, homeboy loves to be in the past.

The relationship guru Derrick Jaxn touched on this on his YouTube platform. He said that Future is the embodiment of a bitter ex every good woman has.

Let’s just review, shall we?

Ciara and Future were together, had a baby and broke up in 2014. He also has children with at least 3, 4 other women! At last count, he JUST got another woman pregnant! Like, Ciara was a good one even getting with man that clearly had no idea, or no direction other than which way his penis pointed.

After calling off their ‘engagement’, Future has had nothing to say positive about his ex. Like, nothing! In the interview that surfaced online, you see that he is MAD that she is moving on with her life. You also see what only women whom have dealt with this type of man can see. I call it ‘bitter disbelief’.

This man literally cannot stand that Ciara, Mrs. Russell Wilson, has gone on with her life–and doing better than most of these women he got pregnant! She’s not blowing his phone up. She’s not asking him for isht other than to be a present father. No more. No less. In the interview, on the heels of his new  album release (The Wizrd), he says this:

“He do exactly what she tell him to do,” Future said of Wilson and Ciara’s relationship. “He’s not being a man in that position.”
“He not tellin’ her, ‘Chill out with that on the internet. Don’t even talk to him, I’m your husband! You better not even bring Future’s name up!'” Future went on to say. “If that was me, she couldn’t even bring his name up. She know that. She couldn’t even bring her exes’ names up.”
He added, “Don’t give that s–t no energy.”

All I can do is laugh at dudes like this!

If he wasn’t trippin off her, why say anything? This is slick manipulative, and further indicates that all he knows how to do is make babies and problems! This is a man that doesn’t understand what it means to be in a healthy relationship. Future thinks so much (or little) of his ex that he cannot seem to realize how she lives her life without him in it is none of his concern!

Toxic masculinity is a helluva drug.

The fact that he would even say what is his quoted to have said pertaining to how Russell Wilson interacts with his wife?

Boy, bye.

Please stop.

And to Russell’s credit, all he has done is love his wife and raise their children. And as far as ‘he’s not being a man in that position’? Imma need him to explain what that means and does he know what to do as a man in his position? According to Ciara, she sends their son from Seattle to Atlanta and baby Future is at his grandma’s house!


Make it make sense, sir!

There is an element to this dynamic that makes me think Future may be abusive. He may be the type of man that needs to be ‘respected’ and ‘unchallenged’. I’ve dated those and even married one. These type of men figure the best way to handle a woman, or to steer a relationship is to control a woman.

Pro-tip:  That never helps. That never works.

Future really has no idea how to value a woman without feeling like he has to dominate her. Most men like Future have no idea how to value a woman because it has never been modeled. It’s never been practiced and its never been something which has been taught! It’s not that ‘he do everything she say’–he respects her. He listens to her and makes her a priority.

This is why the male species  gets mad at Gillette commercials:  when you show a weak man where he messed up, and he does not have impunity to do as he  wishes, he freaks out.

Future, grow up.

Let Ciara be great…and #LevelUp






[image from E! Online]