I am a fan of the mother, turned law professor, turned Senator turned Presidential candidate Elizabeth Warren. I think she is brilliant, knowledgeable and ambitious. But let me tell you a secret–America hates ambitious women. HATES THEM. Being female in this republic is to live in this state of being hemmed up and leashed on a constant basis. You are expected to stay a size 6; have kids and never stretch marks; make your own money and know how to be taken care of; give head on demand and make Thanksgiving-level meals everyday and never be late for work!
We won’t even begin to talk about what is to be female, Black and ambitious in this country! Whew. But, I digress. Let us continue.
Women are penalized consistently for their ambition. For their willingness and daring to do what a MAN can do. Sexism is trash. Toxic masculinity is trash. The fact Elizabeth Warren is no longer running for president is trash–trash AF! I haven’t totally processed this, yet I am well aware what this means. Once more and again, America has shone itself to be more sexist than anything I could ever read about. Ever.
There is this type to curse to being an ambitious woman! You are this alien hodgepodge that has to be handled with suspicion, contempt and awe. You are not allowed to be feminine and powerful–and competent. It is exhausting.
For all of my ambition, because I am a woman? I am consistently told I shouldn’t have it: I should ‘pull it back a bit.’ I wonder if Elizabeth Warren, for all her education and experience, her home state of Massachusetts couldn’t vote for her! Yet, they champion her, retweet her, and when life is hard, they call Senator Warren’s office.
This space is not big enough, or adequate enough to talk about how cannibalistic sexism is to ambitious women. This space is not adequate enough to talk about how being an ambitious woman marks you among other women and certain men want to see you annihilated, stymied frequently and often. You are asked how you, as a woman, should be allowed to strive for success outside of what they deem appropriate for women?
Whether it be college, graduate school, starting a business, running for office–you cannot be woman and ambitious in this country without it being an issue. You can be the best in the field, and a man will be called an expert before you. It is exhausting…
This time, the nation may have gone too far–sexism (once again!) has outpaced what is best for the country. She had plans, experience, and diligence to execute all her plans to make the nation a little better: healthcare, education, the environment. Yet, Senator (I-VT) Bernie Sanders–recently recovering from a heart attack!–said “a woman can’t be president.”
I was waiting for a President Warren. I was hoping for a President Warren. I was going to vote for Senator Warren to become, President Warren. Now, we are stuck between 2 white men to be the 46th president.
This situations makes me want to pour into my children–daughters. It makes me keep at the work I am doing. It motivates me to keep reaching and building and dreaming. It keeps me working and building and believing in myself! The adage is that the wise plant trees they will never see the shade of. The same thing goes for ambitious girls!
If you can encourage a girl, if you can encourage her and speak to her gifts, water her with support and love–she can change the world. The gospel according to Beyonce says, “Who run the world? Girls!”
Someone need to let these scary old White men know…
[image from Time Magazine]